Words of Affirmation is a powerful thing, and you have the power to speak into yourself and others. The script from Chai Beauty discusses the importance of words of affirmation as a primary love language. It emphasizes the power of positive affirmations in making individuals feel valued and loved. The script explores how words of affirmation can uplift and encourage people, providing examples and reflecting on the impact of such communication. It also cautions on the sensitivity towards constructive criticism for those who value affirmation and highlights how to support friends based on their personal needs and strengths, reinforcing the significance of thoughtful, kind, and supportive words in nurturing relationships.
The Power of Words of Affirmation: A Journey of Self-Love and Support
In this episode of Chai Beauty, we explore the transformative power of words of affirmation. The host passionately celebrates the beauty, intelligence, and uniqueness of the listeners, emphasizing the significance of supportive and positive communication. They delve into understanding whether words of affirmation is your primary love language and the impact such words can have on individuals, especially in avoiding criticism. Through personal anecdotes and thoughtful advice, the episode highlights the importance of being mindful in how we use our words, encouraging a compassionate and kind approach to developing and maintaining meaningful relationships. Tune in for an uplifting discussion on how to give and receive love through affirmative language and become a better friend.
00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty
02:58 Words of Affirmation: The Power of Positive Words
05:08 Identifying Your Primary Love Language
07:11 The Double-Edged Sword of Words of Affirmation
09:33 Navigating Friendships with Words of Affirmation
11:41 Giving Advice: Tailoring to the Individual
12:53 Being a Supportive Friend
Hi! I'm so happy you're here. Welcome to Chai Beauty, where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future, and guess what? You get to be along for this journey because we are in this together.
You are so beautiful. You look amazing today. What are you wearing? I would love to wear something like that. Did you know that I appreciate you? You are so intelligent. I love the movies that you pick out. I always know I'm going to learn something. I love the way you walk. I love the way you talk about the things you're so passionate for.
You. You are such a great person. I aim to be like you. You are the best. I love you. I love you even more when you address my issues, when you ask me how I am feeling, when you sit down with me and give me your undivided attention. I love you just because I love you and you are the best. I love that you know who you are.
I love that you do not. let fear Hold you back. I love that you're a challenger. I love that you have grace. I love that you have mercy for others. I even love when you love someone because I know you love them wholeheartedly.
I love when you disagree because you don't yell, no, no, no. You. Decide to articulate and slowly say, this is my perspective. This is what I feel. I am not putting blame on you, but when you did this, this is how it made me feel. And I just love those things about you because you, oh yes, you, you are so amazing.
Now take a moment. My listeners, how did all those words of affirmation make you feel? Did you just bounce a little bit? Did you walk a little farther than before? Did you hold your head up high? Did you say, yes, I do those things wonderfully, or yes, I am working on those things and I'm glad you acknowledge that I'm becoming better.
If you did, then you love words of affirmation and you're going to hear love, love, love, love so many times because guess what? We're talking about the five love languages and that was an example of words of affirmation. Can I hear that again? Can you say it louder? Well, yes, yes, I can. It is called words. Yes, I said it.
Words of affirmation. And there's no one better to give words of affirmation than the people that brought you into this world. Or? As the book has said, there are sometimes you are hurt by those people that have brought you into the world because they don't give you words of affirmation. And if that is true, I am sorry that that happened to you.
But I want to acknowledge that you are great, and you were made so unique. And no one can do what you can do. No one can talk the way you talk. Nobody can walk the way you walk. Nobody can study the way you study. No one can say what you say better than you. So, remember, you are great. You're amazing. And you wholeheartedly are a great person.
The thing I want you to take from this is words of affirmation your primary love language. Does it make you happy? Does it make you sky high fly?
Let's talk about it.
How do you know if words of affirmation are your primary language? Simple. Do you like to receive notes of affirmation? Do you feel love when people affirm you and tell you you're doing a good job? Do you like it when people find you attractive or handsome?
Um, does words of acceptance, are they important to you?
Do you like when you're kindly spoken to? Do you value praise and avoid criticism? Do you like compliments about your achievement? Do you like it when people notice your achievement? Do you like it when people notice your appearance with all the hard work you put in?
Do you feel love when a person celebrates your birthday with meaningful words? Do you like being told that you're appreciated? And do you want words of affirmation daily? That is how you know if that's your primary love language. If you said yes to all those things. But I have to give you some advice.
When it comes to words of affirmation, it can be a double-edged sword. Because one of the things that you try to avoid is criticism. And yes, criticism can be bad, but constructive criticism can help you. So, I wouldn't say don't be sensitive or don't have tough skin, but I would say proceed with caution. I have a friend that loves words of affirmation, and she can get those all day, but you tell her one thing that she's not good at.
All that words of affirmation goes out the window and all she can focus on is what you said that she needs to work on, even when you're trying to give it in a healthy way. What I took from this friendship was that sometimes it's best for people to learn. For themselves, what they're not good at. As a friend, you want to help them, and you want to share with them all the things that you experience in life.
You also want to share with them things that you think can hurt them possibly in the future. But have you realized that sometimes those worries and regrets you have for a friendship may never come? That friend that is so Not in this world is the best way to say it. They don't care if they're lost all the time and their phones not charged and they can't communicate really well with what they're going to do, and you're worried they're going to get lost or something terrible is going to happen and their phone is going to be dead, and they can't call you.
You go to that worst case scenario. But have you ever thought that maybe? They'll be protected and these things can never happen. So, while you're telling them you need to stop doing this, you're so irresponsible because you're so afraid of what could happen that these things may never happen. When it comes to words of affirmation, those people that have that as their first language, there is power in your tongue.
So be careful with how you use it. Don't hurt anyone or don't even try to. Be slow to speak and if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all. When you think about the things that could possibly go wrong, remember you are in control of what you say to others. Their only reaction, the only power they have, is to react to what you say.
And if you can't say it, I'll repeat it again, nicely, don't say it at all. Keep it to yourself, because what you may think as a passing criticism that they should get over, they may not. They may damage your relationship, and it may even go further in saying that. They may not come back to you for advice or life experiences because they are afraid of how you would judge them.
Because in that vulnerable time, you chose not to give them words of affirmation. You chose to tell them what's wrong with them. And some people go have friends that they want to go to and cry with and be with and share these emotions they have to go through with life. And if you can't accept them and be kind and have positive influence over their life, then why would they come to you?
And when, and that is when you think about receiving and giving love. A person that receives love takes every word to heart. A person that is giving love must be careful with what they say and how they say it. Because if you want a friendship to last long, well you have to put in the work and do what's right for that friend.
I've heard over the time, and I've taken it to heart, and I think it was Amanda Seals that said this in the most elegant way. Never give advice on what you would do but give advice on the person that is asking for advice. In simple terms, I am a person that loves to do things spontaneous and sometimes very strategically.
I am always like, okay, if I do this, then it'll lead to this. And then maybe if I do X, Y, Z, I can get here. However, there are people that don't make plans. There are people who are not spontaneous. Well, if a friend of mine that is a planner. It's like, what should I do? I'm making this tough decision. I know them.
I would say, have you made your list yet? Have you, have you thought about it? Do you want me to sit with you while you write that list? Or what do you need from me to be a better friend, to support you in this challenge? And they will tell you what they need. But ultimately. They are the only ones that know what they need at that time, and it was just encouragement.
Well, I advise you to look at that friend and say, as a planner, you are a great person, and I would come to you for anything. So, if this, if you need to sit down and prepare. Tanton that you know exactly what is going to happen in your life if you do it exactly like that Then let's do that as a friend because that is what you're great at and I know no matter what We're going to come out on this side the right way And I just want to be with you and I want to remind you of the strength that you have had Through these storms.
You are strong. You are powerful and you are a great person. You are smart. Not only smart but there's a different type of smart when you are emotionally intelligent. You are caring. Not in the caring where when somebody, when you see somebody drop something, you pick it up. No, you are caring to pick up that item and ask them, I see that you have so much in your hand, may I walk with you?
To your next destination so that you won't drop anything else. May I hold the door for you so that you can enter without having to carry this heavy door. And as a receiver of that message, you will be happy. But as a giver, you have thought of that person. You have given them what they needed in that time of critical decision making.
And all they can do is say thank you for being a great friend.