Gluttony is dangerous, but you are always in control and have a support system rooting for you. Your greatest enemy is yourself. In this video, the host of Chai Beauty shares her personal experiences and insights as an Enneagram Type 7. She discusses the traits of Type 7s, such as their enthusiasm, spontaneity, and tendencies to avoid pain through overindulgence in positive experiences. She also delves into the concept of having wings, sharing how her 6 wing influences her differently than her mother's 8 wing. The video emphasizes the importance of balance, acknowledging emotions, and the need for commitment, while offering advice for other Type 7s on how to navigate their unique challenges and strengths.
Navigating Life as an Enneagram 7
In this episode of Chai Beauty, the host delves into their experience as an Enneagram Type 7. They discuss the traits that define a Type 7, such as being fun, spontaneous, and adventurous, and their tendency to avoid pain by seeking new and positive experiences. The episode also touches on the concept of 'gluttony' in Type 7s, the importance of self-awareness, and the role of support systems and spiritual guidance. Additionally, the host compares their 6 wing to their mother's 8 wing and reflects on how these differences impact their personalities and approaches to life. Throughout, they offer advice on commitment, emotional health, and the value of understanding one's triggers and feelings. The episode concludes with a call to reflect on personal growth and commitment, while also encouraging listeners to follow and support Chai Beauty on social media and Patreon.
00:00 Welcome to Chai Beauty
00:36 Understanding the Enneagram Type 7
02:02 Personal Experiences as a Type 7
04:47 The Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)
06:02 Balancing Fun and Responsibility
07:39 Advice for Type 7s
09:56 The Importance of Self-Reflection
12:30 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
15:13 Stay Connected with Chai Beauty
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Enthusiast, the number seven, which I am. Fun, spontaneous, adventurous, they are motivated by a need to be happy or plan simultaneous experience to avoid pain. This is the last of the triad, the fear and head triad. These numbers are driven by fear. Five externalizes, six internalizes, and seven forgets it.
They are taken in and related to the world through the mind. They tend to think and plan carefully before they act. The seventh guilt he sent is gluten. To avoid Painful feelings 7 gorged themselves on positive experiences. Planning and anticipating new adventures, entertaining interesting ideas, never satisfied.
The 7 frenzied pursuits of these distracting eventually escalate to the point of gluten.
So, 7 is going to be done differently. It's definitely a vice, but I can talk about my personal experience being 7. I do enjoy experience. I do enjoy learning about myself and learning about others and the fun things that I'm able to do. As a 7, I do see how gluten can... go awry in the sense that I do sometimes overindulge or sometimes underindulge, um.
For me personally, as a seven, I have the six wings, which we talked about at the beginning of the chapters, but I decided not to go in great details on other episodes about those things just because they differ from person to person. Fortunately for me, I am a 7 with a 6 wing, and my mother is a 7 with an 8 wing.
Um, to show the differences, like a 7 with an 8 wing is very much assertive, knows what they want, going to strive for those things, and is... As a person, they're very, they don't mind confrontation. As a 6, I'm more laid back. It's like, for me, I don't have to confront people as much, simply because it's like, okay, you do what you want to do and I disagree on those things, so I'm going to go find something else to do, and I don't see any reason for me to have to have a conversation with you about me wanting to do what I want to do when I already clearly acknowledge that I didn't want to do what you want to do.
Um, the vice in that is saying that me learning about myself is understanding that that's not cooled to do. On so many levels, sometimes you have to disagree, have that backbone, not even disagree. First step is having backbone to say, I don't want to do this. And these are the reasons why I don't want you to do these things.
The second is, once you have that backbone, you disagree, but you commit to something like. There have been opportunities in my life that I was like, Ehhhh, I really don't know if I want to do this. Uh, maybe. And I waited until the last second, and if I hadn't just committed, I would've enjoyed it myself.
There are also opportunities I would just like to point out. That I was actually very happy that I missed that entire experience. And you're probably like, Ma'am, give me some more context. Give me some background simply because like my fear of FOMO is real. Like the fear of missing out. I do have that fear.
Um, to the sense of like, sometimes I'm like, gosh, I can't believe they did that without me. Like, are you kidding me? So rude. And I had to get to a point to understand that everything is not for me. I had a choice in every situation. They either asked me or I heard about it. I could have invited myself, which people do.
I could have acknowledged that my feelings were hurt. And because They talked around me and directly didn't ask me. I felt that I was not involved and because of that sadness, I chose to ignore it and just be like, you know what? I'm just not doing period. And then I missed out on that experience because I didn't want to acknowledge that them not asking me directly to hurt my feelings.
But I always can't assume people know what, what I'm talking about or where I'm doing or what they're doing. Especially when life is so up and down lately. So as a 7, Gluten is very serious and real because sometimes you don't even realize how you're messing up other people's feelings, emotions, or status.
Whether it's intentional or unintentional, you are hurting someone because your fear of committing. And I'm learning that, and I'm acknowledging that for myself, and I'm saying no longer will I say that I'm not going to do anything because I want the next best thing. It does not help anyone, because that next best thing may never happen.
So, I have to be realistic with myself and say, I'm going to commit to this, even if I don't want to go, because that's important to that person. So, I ask you. Are you fearing, your fear of commitment, your fear of doing stuff has stopped you from doing something? Something important for someone else. And how did you feel about it?
After it was done? Did you say, dang, I really messed up as a friend? Or did you say, I'm glad I missed out with like that one? She was looking out.
So, the advice I would give myself is... Don't overindulge. Don't look for the next best thing. Don't try to put yourself in a happy situation all the time. Be still relax, breathe. Understand that you are not the fun person all the time. You get exhausted, you get tired, you get emotionally overwhelmed, you take a lot of naps because you're tired.
Also, the advice I would give a 7 is a 5 sometimes. Being a healthy 5 is really great. I learned so much about myself, not only doing the Enneagram, but leadership books. Um, five love languages, which is a plug for the next series is five love languages. I learned so much in being in my five ness that my seven has grown to understand that I don't have to bring the energy to the table.
We all want to sit here and just look at each other. We will sit here and look at each other because I don't have to make an awkward situation comfortable for everyone. I choose where I give my energy and if it's not at this table, it's fine. And I choose to acknowledge that I don't want to do that and I'm expressing that.
So as a friend and as a person that cares for me, you should understand why I did not commit to that. Or you should push me to say, can you give me more information? Like, are you, is it because someone there has intentionally or unintentionally conflicted pain that you don't wanna be in that person's presence anymore.
And if that is it, then let's talk about it instead of you running away from it. Those are the friends I have in my life and that I'm greatly appreciative of because they call me out and they make me realize the things that I'm doing to avoid situations at the very least as a seven. I love, I love to play, like, I am that person that will sing in the rain, I am the person that will drive, just take a drive, nowhere, ain't going nowhere, just driving, um, I will have something spontaneous going on because those are the things that make me happy.
But I'm also a person that seeks my God because there are moments where I have everything in my head that I possibly could need to be happy and I'm not happy. And that's when I turn to him and I say, I accept you into my heart, I accept you into my mind, show me what I'm doing wrong, show me where I can go next, and how can I better myself, because I can't do this alone, and I really, really don't want to do this alone, like, a girl needs a friend.
Friend that is constant, that is there, 24 7. Cause I wake up in the night and be like, well, this suck, like, I have nothing to do, nowhere to go. And to say the least, being a 7 is great. All the other numbers are great, but I, in my head, I can do things. I can execute things differently. I'm not always stressed about things.
That, in reality, you can be stressed on Monday and on Tuesday. It doesn’t matter. As a 7, you have to find a balance. For That overspending or that underspending or that oh, I'm in my five minutes I'm going to stay in my five minutes and I'm going to go hard in my five minutes cuz I need to learn everything about everyone to that I'm a seven.
I don't want it. I just want to play all day. Like everything is not Everything for me as a seven is working. So, I'm going to stay in my sadness Or, sometimes, when you're unhealthy, you go into a one. That one, ugh, I hate my oneness sometimes, because I even be like, I don't like her. But that oneness is helpful as well, because it helps you get a plan.
It helps you think this out. And be like, yo, I don't think this is the best idea for you. And I'm like, but maybe, no. But yeah, no. But all around, as a seven, the moral of this story is a balance and you can't figure that balance out without a great support system, without your spiritual guides, without, without help, you, you can research all day.
You can put yourself on a pedestal and think there's nothing wrong with you. You're the greatest number out there. But that's a lie. Sorry. It is, as a 7. Um, but you can also take a time to acknowledge every emotion you feel. And when you can understand what you're feeling, and how you feel, and what caused it, and what triggered it, It's a different type of happiness.
Like, yes, you're still sad. You're like, you really hurt my feelings. But I know why you hurt my feelings and I can communicate why you hurt my feelings. And we can, you, and then the ball is in your court as my friend to say, I validate your feelings or eh. And if they're eh, they're not in your court and it's time to move forward with something else.
But all that to say is, as a 7, you are beautiful, smart, handsome, and an intelligent number. Take those opportunities to reflect on yourself and figure out what you want to do. Because if you put your mind to it, just like every other number, you can do it. But you gotten commit. You got to persevere. You gotten say.
At the end of the day, no matter if it's good, bad, ugly, wrong, right? I am committing to this because that is the thing that is my, my Achilles heel because I have fear of missing out. But no longer will I miss out or no longer will I do not complete a project because it just doesn't entertain me anymore. If that's the case, we would never finish tough, but the good thing about us is that we're also simple-minded people sometimes.
So, once we got that in our head, we go for it, and we do great things. So, remember 7, be great, do great, because people need us, and we need them. And as always, follow me on Instagram at Chai Beauty and if you want to support me. Even more, go to my Patreon account, search for Chai Beauty, and subscribe monthly to 5.
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